Simple secrets to improve your personal power and magnetism.
What if all of your worries, fears and anxieties were gone, and you felt totally relaxed, free and at ease in every situation—all of the time?
If this is your reality, then you probably already know the impact Inner Charisma can have on your life. There's no mistaking someone who "owns" his or her charisma potential. These are the people to whom we feel drawn. They have an aura that captivates us. Their level of confidence makes us feel secure and inspired when we're around them.
We're all born with charisma; it is not a genetic trait. It does, however, lie dormant or underutilized in most of us. Here are four secrets that are guaranteed to help you fully develop this priceless birthright:
Know yourself...intimately. If someone asks, "Who are you?" your response should be about more than your name and job title. Who you are can be found in your strengths and passions. It's reflected in your unique contribution to this world, and driven by your values (what gives you true meaning in life) and integrity (the standards/ethics by which you live your life). When you know and live your truth, everything about you is congruent. This level of self-respect and honesty draws admiration from observers.
Focus more on those with whom you communicate and less on yourself. Feeling nervous or uncomfortable only happens when you're caught up in your "stuff". By turning your attention and interest to the person or audience with whom you're sharing time, you shift into the moment. It is impossible to feel resistance of any kind when you're fully present, only a lightness of being. We all share the same basic human needs: to feel understood, important and appreciated. Get to know who they are. Go beyond surface talk. When you're an expert on yourself and comfortable in your skin, you'll have nothing to prove, only a desire to learn (and people can be truly fascinating). Become curious and open and everyone will feel amazing in your company.
Practice an optimistic perspective...often! There are at least two ways to look at any given situation. When you choose a positive perspective, you're choosing to be productive and look for an opportunity to grow. Holding a negative point of view is like having a dark film over your glasses. It holds you back and prevents you from seeing a clear and accurate picture. Stop, Look and Listen to what is being offered before you choose your reaction. Both pessimism and optimism are habit forming. It's only the latter that will give you useful and magnetic results.
Grow your mind. Read widely and deeply. Reading is a powerful way to gain years of experience from a few hours of study. Every book or magazine has at least one strategy or tool of benefit. Expand and deepen your understanding of different topics. Growing your mind and growing the quality of your life are synonymous. Wisdom helps you raise your standards and become highly competent, strong, calm and disciplined—all of which are present in a charismatic person.
Lisa Holba is a Life Leadership Expert & Wellness Spokesperson. As Founder of Dream It - Do It Coaching, she combines her background in communications with her training in leadership psychology and peak performance to help people create positive, lasting change. Find out more about Lisa.
"If you believe you can or if you believe you can't...you're right!"
Henry Ford